THOUGHTS &
NOTES

Most of us spend a good part of our week worrying about things we cannot control. We panic about the traffic, the economy, or what someone said, or didn't say. We concern ourselves with what might happen next month, next year or in ten years. We worry about our children's choices, our partner's moods, the boss's opinion and the state of the world in general. We treat worry as though it is productive. To a thirty-party observer, we appear to believe that enough anxious thought

Most people know what it is to feel stuck. You can feel stuck in your work, your marriage, goals, your thinking, decisions, emotions, or even in your own habits. Life starts to feel like a loop. You get up, do what needs to be done, carry the same frustrations, think the same thoughts, and end the day wondering why nothing has really changed. Every day seems another Groundhog Day but without the possibility of any change. Sometimes you think about change. Maybe you talk about

I am amazed at how stressed everyone seems to be these days. People are tired, pressured, stretched and anxious. Many are carrying more than they realise. They are reacting to life, other people, problems, disappointments, criticism, pressure and whatever happens next. Just think about the dramatic increase in the number and intensity of road rage incidents in the recent past and you’ll see how much people are reacting to life. Life comes at people and they simply respond in

Lose your job. Lose your income. Lose your house. Lose the plans you thought were certain. Then ask yourself one brutal question, what is left? That’s when you discover what your life is really built on. The reality is painfully. Your foundation is not what you say you believe. It’s not what you sing in church, what you affirm to yourself or what you pretend it to be. What you actually trust becomes obvious when the props are kicked away. Many of us build our sense of securit

AI can give us information, wording, solutions and options, but it cannot give us wisdom. It cannot give us maturity, discernment, prayerfulness, self-awareness, moral courage or character. These are not formed by talking to a screen. They are formed by engaging fully with real people in the real world, across the broad and often messy spectrum of human growth and behaviour. People today use AI in all kinds of ways. That is fine, provided AI remains a tool. It should always r

Being fully present is a beautiful gift It’s amazing that we can connect with someone on the other side of the world in real time but ignore the person sitting on the lounge opposite me at home. We can find answers to the most complex problems through AI but not know what to say to our upset spouse. Digital media has promised to connect us, but in many homes, it is quietly corroding relationships. We sit in the same room but live in differ ent worlds. We ignore the voice we h

Are we becoming less human? Digital media and AI are no longer occasional tools. They shape how we think, remember, relate, decide and even rest. Used wisely, they can help us learn, connect and create. Used carelessly, they can quietly make us less human. Jim Kwik, in his book Limitless, describes four dangers of the digital age. The first is digital deluge. We are drowning in information. News, notifications, emails, reels, opinions, messages and AI-generated content pour i

Every couple argues. Some arguments end with passionate make-up sex. Others end with two wounded souls retreating to their neutral corners to stew, sulk, and silently build a case for the next round. Each of these responses may feel natural. But none of them resolves the deeper issue. That is why what happens after the argument matters so much. Make-up sex may restore closeness for a moment, though it often leaves the underlying problem untouched. Retreating to your corner ma

Marriage rarely grows stronger by accident. It does not flourish merely because two people live under the same roof. A strong marriage is built intentionally, through repeated choices that move a couple away from survival mode and towards genuine connection. Marriages grows when each partner chooses hope over despair, cooperation over combat, and service over self-protection. Hope is vital in marriage, not a vague wish that things might improve, but a settled confidence that

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